jat1 daam6 saa1 tong4 jat1 daam6 si2一啖砂糖一啖屎
Jyutpingjat1 daam6 saa1 tong4 jat1 daam6 si2
Yaleyāt daahm sā tòhng yāt daahm sí
Definition
To treat someone unpredictably, constantly switching between being very kind and very mean.
colloquialemotionpeople
How it's used
This idiom vividly captures the emotional whiplash of dealing with someone who oscillates between extreme kindness and sudden cruelty. It is frequently used to describe toxic relationships or manipulative bosses who use praise and punishment to keep others off balance. The imagery is intentionally jarring, highlighting the absurdity and pain of the inconsistency.
Examples
He treats you with such hot and cold behavior, do you still trust him?
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Common mistake
Do not use this to describe simple mood swings or someone who is just occasionally grumpy. It specifically implies a deliberate or recurring pattern of behavior that leaves the recipient confused and emotionally drained.
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Grammar guides
- TonesCantonese has six tones, and the tones can change in certain grammatical contexts. Learn the six tones and the rules for tone change.
- Time and datesClock time, days of the week, months, and years. The patterns you need to make plans and talk about when things happen.
- Modal verbsHow to say can, will, may, should, must, and want. The core modal verbs of Cantonese and the differences that trip up beginners.
