keoi1 lai5拘禮拘礼
Jyutpingkeoi1 lai5
Yalekēui láih
Definition
To stick too rigidly to manners; to be overly concerned with etiquette or formalities.
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How it's used
Describes a person who is overly concerned with social etiquette to the point of making others feel uncomfortable or distant. It carries a slightly negative connotation, implying that the person is stiff or lacks flexibility in social interactions. It is often used to reassure someone that they can relax and be themselves.
Examples
We're close friends, no need to be so formal.
He is usually very uptight about manners and dislikes people being too casual.
Related words
Common phrases
no need to stand on ceremony
excessively formal
Common mistake
Do not confuse this with 禮貌, which is a positive trait meaning polite. Being 拘禮 implies an excessive, almost burdensome level of formality that hinders genuine connection.
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Grammar guides
- NegationHow to say no, not, didn't, and don't in Cantonese. The four main negation words and when to use each one.
- Numbers and moneyCounting, talking about money, and asking how much things cost. Includes the two words for two and the everyday words for dollars and cents.
- Aspect markersCantonese has no tenses, but it does have aspect markers. Learn how zo2, gwo3, gan2, and hai2 dou6 show completion, experience, and ongoing action.
