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Definition
Extremely anxious, grief-stricken, or upset, as if one's own parents had just passed away.
How it's used
This idiom carries a strong sense of exaggeration and is often used to mock someone for being overly dramatic or inconsolable about a relatively minor setback. It is rarely used in a literal sense to describe actual grief and instead functions as a biting critique of someone's disproportionate emotional reaction. Because of the heavy cultural weight of filial piety, using this phrase implies that the person's behavior is absurdly intense.
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Common mistake
Avoid using this to describe genuine mourning, as it is almost exclusively used in a sarcastic or critical way to highlight someone's overreaction. Using it to describe someone who is truly grieving would be seen as highly offensive and insensitive.
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Grammar guides
- TonesCantonese has six tones, and the tones can change in certain grammatical contexts. Learn the six tones and the rules for tone change.
- Time and datesClock time, days of the week, months, and years. The patterns you need to make plans and talk about when things happen.
- Modal verbsHow to say can, will, may, should, must, and want. The core modal verbs of Cantonese and the differences that trip up beginners.



