tau4 kei4 so2 hou3投其所好
Definition
To please someone by catering to their interests or doing what they like.
How it's used
This idiom describes the strategic act of figuring out what someone values or enjoys and then tailoring one's actions to gain their favor. It often carries a slightly manipulative or sycophantic undertone, suggesting that the person is currying favor rather than acting out of genuine shared interest. While it can be used neutrally to describe thoughtful gift-giving, it is frequently used to critique someone who is overly eager to please a superior or a romantic interest.
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Common mistake
Learners often mistake this for a simple way to say 'I like what you like', but it specifically implies an intentional effort to win someone over through their known preferences. It is not used for mutual hobbies or shared interests between friends.
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Grammar guides
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