jat1 go3 jyun6 daa2, jat1 go3 jyun6 ngaai4一個願打，一個願捱一个愿打，一个愿捱

Jyutpingjat1 go3 jyun6 daa2, jat1 go3 jyun6 ngaai4

Yaleyāt go yuhn daa2, yāt go yuhn ngàaih

Definition

Describing a situation where one person is treated poorly by another but does not mind and stays in the relationship.

colloquialpeopleemotion

How it's used

This idiom describes a dynamic where one person is clearly being mistreated or exploited, yet the victim remains willingly involved. It highlights a mutual, albeit dysfunctional, agreement between the parties involved. It is frequently used to dismiss the concerns of third parties who try to intervene in toxic relationships.

Examples

keoi5佢dei6哋loeng5兩go3個jat1一go3個jyun6願daa2打，jat1一go3個jyun6願捱，ngaai4外ngoi6人jan4好hou2難naan4插caap3手。

The two of them are in a 'one hits, one suffers' situation, it is hard for outsiders to intervene.

nei5你gok3覺dak1得keoi5佢hou2好caam2慘，daan6但keoi5佢jat1一go3個jyun6願daa2打，jat1一go3個jyun6願捱，ngaai4你nei5理lei5嚟lai4做zou6咩me1呀？

You think they are miserable, but they are both willing participants, why do you care?

Common phrases

jat1一go3個jyun6願daa2打，jat1一go3個jyun6願捱

one willing to hit, one willing to suffer

Common mistake

Do not use this to describe a situation where someone is being forced against their will, as the phrase specifically emphasizes the voluntary nature of the victim's endurance.